A new attitude can change everything. It really can…One of the topics thats been lingering on my mind is validation, particularly social media validation. I have a huge effect on my baby sister and that makes me think about the way I would like her to grow up seeing herself.
We live in a world where ‘likes’ and ‘followers’ are a big deal! And that’s okay until you realise it has a deep rooted effect on the way a lot of people including myself see themselves. Of course my outlook on this has changed because I used to feel unworthy if I didn’t get a huge following or have as many likes as the next person. Maybe I was too busy caring about what everybody thought that I became so vain in my unsurity. See, back then, it was easier to be confident in myself because I was in a world of safe censored opinions. Now with Social Media we are unknowingly bombarded with the opinions of millions of other people in the world and this easily influences how we see ourselves.
The images, the heated opinions, the videos and the trolling have changed how we see ourselves even though 90% of the times we feel remotely connected to the issues. Subconsciously I feel we become connected to them and try harder to achieve internet ‘worthiness’.
You don’t have to conform to the world’s idea of beautiful to be beautiful! I’m okay now with posting images of myself that I feel look crusty but have such an amazing memory attached to them because I hope I’m teaching her that that’s what matters. You don’t always have to be on ‘fleek’ to feel beautiful, that isn’t very realistic. Sometimes the memory behind the photos, videos, posts must be so meaningful that online validation cannot take away that weight. That beauty.