Are you Sexy or Beautiful?
Which one is most important!
Knowing your worth is one of the most important things for every woman. It not only gives you confidence and hope, but it prevents you from making mistakes and taking uncalculated steps in life but most importantly it protects you from being used.
When you are young and unaware, you strive to be sexy because your appearance gets you attention. And I say young because young people love to be noticed, I don’t know whether it’s a puberty/immaturity thing but we fall for the lustful eye? No? But not all attention is good, especially when you attract all kinds of attention, as a young person with your naivety, you are pressured with unnecessary decision making all in the name of sexy!
We tend to fall for the guy who refers to us as “sexy” or “hot” or whatever! And then we want him to treat us like “wifey”.  For me, all these terms describe something temporal, good enough for a period, on condition that….!
Beautiful however, has nothing to do with appeal.  Beauty is something we all have, and it is our worth. Beauty is not determined by how you look on the outside, it is who you are on the inside and we hear this phrase so many times but what does it really mean?
It simply means that you are beautiful first and no worldly measure can change that! Your beauty doesn’t cease because they didn’t notice you, neither does it fade because they rejected you! Your beauty is not defined by the number of men who want you or the number of friends around you. You are created beautiful, God don’t make ugly.
The Bible says: Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as braided hair and the wearing of gold jewellery and fine clothes. Instead, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight. This is why the Bible says that God looks at the heart and not on outward appearance, because your worth is in your heart.
When it comes to relationships, there is a famous adage that says “beauty lies in the eye of the beholder” or the saying that one person’s trash is another person’s treasure! Why is this so? It is because no matter how good of a man/woman you are, you will never be good enough for the wrong person! A wrong partner expects you to be perfect for the eye first and most of the time, doesn’t really care what’s in your heart, as long as you are sexy tog? No? And when they no longer find you appealing, no matter how beautiful you are inside, they will leave you. But that doesn’t mean that you are not beautiful? Does it? For women the requirement is sexy and for men it’s money!
Your worth is in the beauty created within you. You are fearfully and wonderfully made. A ring will not define your beauty; the presence of a child in your life will not reduce your worth just like the absence of a child in your life will not increase your worth. You worth is not in the type of car you drive or your career, it is within you and no one should ever make you feel like you are worthless.

*Sesillia is an Economist and has written many motivational articles for Namibian newspapers. Find her on Facebook where she writes a lot of insightful posts about self awareness and self love*